In this article webcam model Niki talks about niche markets and shares her experience with breaking into BDSM community as professional submissive.
For me, one of the most rewarding things about being a cam model is having virtual strangers entrust so much of themselves in my confidence. Never is this more evident than in the fetish communities, where discretion can understandably be of the utmost important to people who, sadly, are sometimes not out to their loved ones about their often unpopular—alrthough in no way less valid—desires.
True, catering to people’s specific fetishes is not everyone’s cup of tea—although I would argue that every area of sex work caters to fetishes; it’s just that the fetishes of the BDSM communities are more frequently considered outside of the mainstram than, say, the fetishes of the Maxim-loving, big-breast-rubbing set. The all-too-common social marginalization of such niche markets, though, makes focusing on them all the more fulfilling—and, it should be said, often all the more lucrative.
I, for one, have never been shy about being a submissive. Perhaps it is this knowledge of myself (and passion therein) that makes me care so much about serving others. Perhaps it is the more cynical fact that there is a market, often under-served, often under-whelmed—and often, to be quite frank, with wallets as deep as their desires—and where there is desire, there is demand. And lots of it.
Since beginning to market myself as a professional submissive, I have felt fulfilled like never before. Like porn queen Nina Hartley, I truly feel as if I’m performing a social service—and, as someone who gets off, copiously, to the idea of serving, this is the best of all possible worlds.
What more, then, can I say? Focusing on BDSM is certainly not for the faint of heart. It is not a get-rich-quick scheme—but neither is camming, or any adult work for that matter. Working in pornography, however peripherally, requires far too much emotional investment, if you’re at all serious about your work, to be considered lucrative simply for financial gain. But if you have any inkling of enjoying the darker side of sex; if you like being entrusted with the fantasies, fears, and feelings of interesting and often kind people; if you get off on playing with power, with gender, with roles in general—then fetish work mght very well be for you. It has certainly been quite the journey for me, thus far, and I very much look forward to turning the next dark corner and seeing what lies beyond.
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I am exactly the same. But my problem with camming is that I work on a site where everyone wants to be the submissive and I can’t really get into that. Such a bummer. And it totally shows I don’t know what to do with those pop up privates.
That’s why you need to have your own web site to promote the niches you are comfortable with.
Totally. I wish they were ok with that. I just don’t have the customers right now.
Hey zb, You could always promote yourself as being a switch. You don’t have to be one or the other. Promoting as a switch will show them your open to BDSM. You can learn a lot just by listening to your client.
Thanks Dee! I will try that
Great article, Niki! I wholeheartedly concur!
All my best,
Sandra London
ZB…. you need to learn to write your profile on the big cam site so they are set up to get you the type of show that you want. If you are not submissive to don’t be it…I make good money on streamate and I am not submissive and I don’t use toys in my show. My profile clear states what I like and what I am not.
Most guys on the major cam sites have no idea what domination and submissions are all about. They think that being a dick and call you a stupid bitch or whore and telling you what to do is being dominate. No it just being asshole and they just want to put you down to make you feel better about themselves.
also being a submissive has a whole lot more to it then just letting guys call you names and do what they ask…. A good submissive is smart and will adapt to me their dominate needs. D/s relations are all about trust. Niki is taping into that trust and giving shows that meet their needs. Their pockets are deep because they respect her for what she is giving them and they are willing to pay big to have those needs meet.
At the cored for a bdsm relationships is trust and respect. Just remember that.
check out sedenna, she is a dom on streamate, and makes loads of cash